How We Smell
"Granda you smell really sweet--like a strawberry." That's Zane our grandson.
"Granda you're not wearing the after-shave I love best." That's Syona our granddaughter.
I know this is not your usual blog on a business website, but really the way we smell is a big deal, especially if you are squashed together in tiny cubes. Seriously! I was holding a Critical Conversation class recently, and one of the issues, was having to tell someone they smell bad. It's not easy...but using the BEST process does make it easier.
- Be empathetic
- Exchange information
- Seek agreement
- Take action.
It begins by taking the person somewhere private, and then empathizing,
- Sometimes it's hard to find time to shower in the morning...I get it...
- I don't know how to talk about this and my objective is to not offend you... but personal hygiene issues have come up.
- What do you think about this, or what's been going on for you, or I'd love to hear your perspective.
- Okay, let's meet again next Friday at 3:00 pm and talk about how it's going.
But really we all need to take charge of how we smell and then people wouldn't have to have these critical conversations.
And I also know the other side of smells; the person who puts so much cologne on, you can hardly breathe--that doesn't work either. So what's the best way to smell? Clean! That's it. Take a shower, sing in the shower, put on some long-lasting deodorant. Do it for yourself and those around you. Perfect!